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Why ‘I’m Happy But Could Be Happier’ Mentality Is Ruining Our Relationships

Why ‘I’m Happy But Could Be Happier’ Mentality Is Ruining Our Relationships: Happiness is something we should strive for in every aspect of life but most importantly in our relationships. Happiness in relationships means something different to everyone; a kiss before work every morning or adventures to new places but are we compromising this happiness by second guessing how we’re really feeling? I’ve heard the phrase ‘I’m happy but could be happier’ bounced around a lot recently; constantly repeated by the contestants on Love Island and scrutinised on Twitter. It’s pretty self-explanatory but the phrase implies you’re not content with your current relationship and are always searching for more. It’s like the proverb ‘the grass is always greener on the other side’. As a society, we’re always looking for the next target to hit, the next fashion fad to invest in, the next social media craze and sadly – our next relationship. Is the grass really greener on the other side? Should we really speculate about what could be? Obviously, you don’t know until you try but 21st Century relationships are bearing the brunt of this attitude. We’ve turned into frivolous, indecisive commitment-phobes who can’t be bothered to fight for our relationships.
Happiness is something we should strive for in every aspect of life but most importantly in our relationships. Happiness in relationships means something different...

5 Body Language Mistakes You Should Avoid At Work

5 Body Language Mistakes You Should Avoid At Work: Your communication skills might not be good like others but keep in mind that you don’t have to speak to communicate with others. Your hand gestures, the way you sit and even your facial expression are telling a lot about you without knowing it. You are probably not going to keep an eye on every item on this list in the beginning but once you start fixing your body languages one by one, you will get used to them and “unconscious competence” will take place.
Your communication skills might not be good like others but keep in mind that you don’t have to speak to communicate with others. Your...

5 Steps To Achieving Your Dreams

5 Steps To Achieving Your Dreams: Have you ever felt like your dream is just that- a dream? We say “dream on” and “as if” and “it’s not going to happen ever.” Well, if you’re anything at all like me, you might be feeling overwhelmed, downtrodden, and absolutely uninspired at hearing and saying all of those things. But, what if I told you this- a dream is inspired by the reality and the world that you see and experience every day. It doesn’t take magic to get there, to achieve that version of reality. It doesn’t take “faith, trust, and pixie dust.” No magic here, no pixie dust- just sheer imagination, strength and resiliency, and determination. Here are five steps to achieving your dreams because no matter how far away they may seem, no matter how unimaginable they may be, you can get there and you will.
Have you ever felt like your dream is just that- a dream? We say “dream on” and “as if” and “it’s not going to...

4 Must Have Elements To Help You Take Amazing Instagram Photos

4 Must Have Elements To Help You Take Amazing Instagram Photos: Everyone dreams of those perfect IG photos that get hundreds or thousands of likes. But what goes into the photo to make it popular? There are a few key factors to creating and publishing great photos. I have spent many hours taking pictures of everything under the sun, editing, not editing, posting and deleting, and IG stalking to come up with a general idea of how to take amazing photos. I have narrowed it down to 4 simple but effective elements.
Everyone dreams of those perfect IG photos that get hundreds or thousands of likes. But what goes into the photo to make it popular?...

7 Super Easy Recipes To Make Your Valentine’s Day Extra Tasty

7 Super Easy Recipes To Make Your Valentine's Day Extra Tasty
1. Creamy Pepper Sauce For A Scotch Fillet Steak 2. Stuffed Roast Leg Of Lamb 3. Loaded Hasselback Potatoes 4. Boneless Chicken Roast With Apricot & Herb...

5 Things No One Tells You About Surviving Your Twenties

5 Things No One Tells You About Surviving Your Twenties: You are trying to figure yourself out whilst watching everyone around you seem to know what they are doing and how they are going to do it. One of your school friends has 3 kids and already celebrating married life, then on the other side of life your other friend still can’t tie their own shoelaces. Whilst watching them seem to figure out their life so easily, you’ll sit there and wonder why you don’t have a clue how to progress in this so-called life. Before you know it 3 years have passed, you’re in the same dead-end job and you can’t wait to drown your sorrows on the weekends. Maybe this is just me? But I bet deep down half of you reading this can relate.
1. You Will Compare Yourself To All Your Friends, Family And Possibly Every Single Person You Have Ever Met. You are trying to figure yourself...

Top 10 Affordable Places To Eat Out For North East Students

Top 10 Affordable Places To Eat Out For North East Students: Finding somewhere to eat as a student can be difficult. You have to constantly live on a budget, especially when living away from home but it is important to treat yourself now and then. Eating out with friends or as part of date night is a nice treat to have, maybe once a month. Read on to find out 10 great places for students to eat in the North East of England.
Finding somewhere to eat as a student can be difficult. You have to constantly live on a budget, especially when living away from home...

7 Foolproof Ways To Gain Self Confidence On Your Own

7 Foolproof Ways To Gain Self Confidence On Your Own: I know many people that suffer with low self-confidence, including myself. And when a person feels that way, it can really mess up your life. When it comes to relationships, you constantly need reassuring that this guy/girl likes you because you're always wondering why they're with you. On a night out with friends, you might feel slightly down in the dumps when it comes to dolling up because compared to your friends, you're a solid 6 while they're sliding in to double figures. This is me to a T and you know what? It's time to stop. Here's some top tips I've told myself recently that I'm going to live by that I think would do you the world of good too if you feel the same way.
I know many people that suffer with low self-confidence, including myself. And when a person feels that way, it can really mess up your...

How To Turn Your Pessimism Into Happiness With 10 Easy Steps

How To Turn Your Pessimism Into Happiness With 10 Easy Steps: Most people would probably agree that being nice to others is not only extremely important, but should be one of our top priorities in life. However, I wonder how many people actually make a conscious and continuous effort to encourage and spread joy to others. I know I often completely forget to! I imagine that many of the reasons we avoid the task is because we feel it will take too much time out of our already busy lives, or use some of the energy that we are preserving for the million and one things that we need to do that day. In this post, I am going to provide a few ideas of ways you can be nice to people and spread some happiness, without taking up much of your precious time and energy, in the hope that if we all make the decision to carry out some of these, we can help inject a little bit of joy into people’s lives, which can make more of a difference than you would ever think! 1. Smile It is amazing how much difference such a tiny gesture can make to someone’s day. It is such an easy task, yet really could cheer someone up or be exactly what someone was needing at that time. 2. Show Interest If you’re in a situation where you’re going to be spending more than a few seconds with someone (such as paying at a till or standing in a queue with someone) why not ask them how their day is going? It is such a small thing, but often just the knowledge that someone cares can be enough to completely change the mindset or mood of another person. 3. Offer Help This is similar to the last point, but if you see someone struggling, in whatever way, it really will not take much of your time to assist them a little bit. If it turns out the task they are struggling with requires more time or ability than you can offer, do what you can and I’m sure they will be grateful. 4. Speaking/Acting With Respect This is another super easy one, which I’m sure a lot of us do without thinking about it anyway, but often all it takes is to simply show respect to someone. Just small things like saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, or saying ‘excuse me’ etc. can really make a difference. It’s often considered basic manners, but I think that when someone treats you with complete respect it can be really encouraging. 5. Interactions On Social Media A really easy way to spread joy is to interact with people on social media platforms. It can be as easy as liking/retweeting someone’s tweet or commenting on someone’s instagram and blog. Again, it’s often just their knowledge that someone is thinking of them and appreciating what they are doing that can really make someone’s day. 6. Compliments It makes me feel a little guilty when I think about how little I actually make the effort to compliment someone, especially face-to-face. It’s a bit ridiculous the amount of times a day I’ll think about how much I like someone’s outfit, or love their makeup, or think that they seem really nice, but just never actually tell what I’m thinking. I know that when someone has complimented me on something it has always completely improved my mood and made me feel so much better about myself, so I’m sure it would have the same effect on others too! 7. Encouragement If you see someone attempting to do something, or struggling with something, it really does not take much time to just say a couple of words of encouragement, and this could really lift their spirits and give them the motivation and boost that they need. 8. Keep Negative Opinions To Yourself I think that when we see something we don’t like or don’t agree with, it can be so easy to start talking about your opinions, whether it be to the person you disagree with, or to others behind the persons’ back. However, these kinds of comments can really hurt someone’s feeling and knock their confidence, so I think one thing it can be really good to do is to just leave it. Unless what they are doing is hurting others or is being offensive, it’s often much nicer to just not say anything. I did a post on my blog about Gossiping (https://judanna.co.uk/gossiping-wheres-the-line) if you would like to read more about the topic! 9. Listen If someone has an issue or something they are worrying about, sometimes the nicest thing you can do is just be there for them and listen. It will not take much of your time and effort but will really benefit them. 10. Support I think a really simple way to show people your appreciation for them, or the work they do, is to support whatever they are doing. Whether this be encouraging them, interacting with their work, or financially supporting them (if you are in a situation which allows you to do so), supporting others is such a good way of spreading some happiness. These are a few ideas I have come up with, but if you have any more feel free to comment them down below so other people can see them. You will probably have noticed some key themes throughout these points! Basically, show people you respect, support and care for them, and it can make the world a happier place. Don’t forget that when people receive kindness, often their immediate reaction will be to spread the joy to someone else, so although your actions may seem small and slightly insignificant, they could make a much bigger impact than you could ever think. I really hope this post will have encouraged you to spread a little bit of joy into someone’s life whenever you can. We live in a world where there is so much hurt and suffering, but sometimes small acts of kindness can make a huge difference.
Most people would probably agree that being nice to others is not only extremely important, but should be one of our top priorities in...

Impulse Buying: Should You Really Get That?

Impulse Buying Should You Really Get That: We’ve all done it, bought something that we didn’t really need in a moment of weakness. While it may have been a small purchase, like a candy bar at the checkout counter, repeated impulse buys will add up. When I turned 18 I got my first credit card to start building my credit. Unfortunately I got carried away and started buying things that I did not really need in the heat of the moment. By the time I had turned 19 I realized that the amount of debt that I had accrued even though it was not an obnoxious amount was, for lack of a better word, stupid. Most of the stuff that I had purchased was either gone or I had never even used or worn it and now I owed this money that I didn’t really want to pay back. I felt like an idiot for not being more careful about what I bought. At that moment I vowed that I would never be the person who drowns in debt because I just had to have it. Thankfully, for me it was easy to snap myself back to reality but it may not be so easy for others. The reason behind the impulse may come from various sources. For instance, the pressure of wanting to keep up with peers or using shopping to help you feel better are just a couple reasons that might lead to a thoughtless purchase. Advertisers and stores are also very good at marketing a product or presenting an item in such a positive light that you just can’t resist. Truthfully in most cases an impulse buy will not hurt your pocket too badly. On the other hand if you consistently repeat this behavior it could negatively impact your finances and your future.
We’ve all done it, bought something that we didn’t really need in a moment of weakness. While it may have been a small purchase,...