Tag: MENTAL

Why ‘I’m Happy But Could Be Happier’ Mentality Is Ruining Our Relationships: Happiness is something we should strive for in every aspect of life but most importantly in our relationships. Happiness in relationships means something different to everyone; a kiss before work every morning or adventures to new places but are we compromising this happiness by second guessing how we’re really feeling? I’ve heard the phrase ‘I’m happy but could be happier’ bounced around a lot recently; constantly repeated by the contestants on Love Island and scrutinised on Twitter. It’s pretty self-explanatory but the phrase implies you’re not content with your current relationship and are always searching for more. It’s like the proverb ‘the grass is always greener on the other side’. As a society, we’re always looking for the next target to hit, the next fashion fad to invest in, the next social media craze and sadly – our next relationship. Is the grass really greener on the other side? Should we really speculate about what could be? Obviously, you don’t know until you try but 21st Century relationships are bearing the brunt of this attitude. We’ve turned into frivolous, indecisive commitment-phobes who can’t be bothered to fight for our relationships.

Why ‘I’m Happy But Could Be Happier’ Mentality Is Ruining Our Relationships

Happiness is something we should strive for in every aspect of life but most importantly in our relationships. Happiness in relationships means something different...
5 Steps To Achieving Your Dreams: Have you ever felt like your dream is just that- a dream? We say “dream on” and “as if” and “it’s not going to happen ever.” Well, if you’re anything at all like me, you might be feeling overwhelmed, downtrodden, and absolutely uninspired at hearing and saying all of those things. But, what if I told you this- a dream is inspired by the reality and the world that you see and experience every day. It doesn’t take magic to get there, to achieve that version of reality. It doesn’t take “faith, trust, and pixie dust.” No magic here, no pixie dust- just sheer imagination, strength and resiliency, and determination. Here are five steps to achieving your dreams because no matter how far away they may seem, no matter how unimaginable they may be, you can get there and you will.

5 Steps To Achieving Your Dreams

Have you ever felt like your dream is just that- a dream? We say “dream on” and “as if” and “it’s not going to...
Blogger With Mental Disorder Explain How She Train Herself To Maintain Normal Life: You have heard about it, read about it and yes even talked about it. This is one of the biggest topics in media right now. Mental Health. In this case, we're talking about Anxiety, Depression, PTSD and BPD ( Borderline Personality Disorder).Living a life with mental disorders is a major challenge and there’s always a story behind how it all started. A happy girl on the outside, but screaming on the inside for help and attention. Just wanted to be loved and seen. All that happened in the early years gave the foundation for many of the disorders who will stay there for life. From early childhood up to the age of 16, it was all about the hard life. Divorced parents with substance abuse problem, orphanage and then foster care. All this before the age of 5 the result was therapy from the age of 4. When first diagnosed with BPD at the age of 13, the medication was presented for the first time and after that, it all went downhill faster than anyone could have predicted. The foster care was no help more the opposite. To put the blame on a young girl and tell how worthless she is every day will bring anyone to act in desperation. The place who was there to give the safety and feeling of a family was not there at all. Alone against the world, the drug became a good friend, a huge comfort and the escape was a warm welcome. Then at the age of almost 17, finally the home and secure place was there. With school, fewer drugs and people to call family. An institution it was, but the best place a troubled young girl could be. This, unfortunately, made the memories come back and it hit hard. And after the first child brought a birth depression the drugs again became the only escape. And the same again after the second child ( It has to be said that the children weren’t there under the drug abuse. ) Nevertheless, as a strong person with a strong will, to get out of it all was, in the end, the only choice. After a third child, many years was better until it all crashed again, and the hardest choice ever had to be made. The kids needed more than their mom could give, and moved to relatives.

Blogger With Mental Disorder Explains How She Trains Herself To Maintain A Normal Life

You have heard about it, read about it and yes even talked about it. This is one of the biggest topics in media right...
5 Foolproof Strategies To Win The War Against PCOS: PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) is an endocrine disorder. It causes hormonal imbalance, cysts in the ovaries and can lead to a lot of severe conditions, such as obesity, insulin resistance or Type II diabetes. It can also cause depression, mood swings, infertility, hypothyroidism and excessive, male-type hair-growth and adult acne and it also makes patients more prone to cardiovascular diseases and cancer. In the U.S., this disease affects 10% of women of reproductive age. While there is no cure for PCOS, it must be treated and living with it requires a certain lifestyle. Good news, though, that living a healthy life can improve PCOS symptoms. But what do actually need to live a quality life despite having such a complex and severe condition?

5 Foolproof Strategies To Win The War Against PCOS

PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) is an endocrine disorder. It causes hormonal imbalance, cysts in the ovaries and can lead to a lot of severe...
10 Ways To Keep Your Sanity During A Weight Loss Journey: We all should be doing what we can to change your life. You should be using this time each and every day to be a better version of yourself. In order to do that so that you don’t have to restart at the beginning of a New Year is to look at your weight loss journey as a whole. A journey has its ups and downs no matter what you are looking to accomplish. It could be a journey to love you more. It could be a journey to find the new love you deserve. With a weight loss journey do not be deceived to think that you will just do a few things and the weight is going to pour off of you. Sometimes it will, sometimes it will go up, and other times there could be no change that takes place. Be gentle with yourself as you continue. One of the biggest things to change while you are completing your weight loss journey is your mindset. You can drop the weight on the scale but not the weight in your mind. You may still see yourself as overweight because you haven’t taken the time to love on your body at each stage you are in. Let’s give you a few tools to help your mindset as you progress.

10 Ways To Keep Your Sanity During A Weight Loss Journey

We all should be doing what we can to change your life. You should be using this time each and every day to be...
7 Foolproof Ways To Gain Self Confidence On Your Own: I know many people that suffer with low self-confidence, including myself. And when a person feels that way, it can really mess up your life. When it comes to relationships, you constantly need reassuring that this guy/girl likes you because you're always wondering why they're with you. On a night out with friends, you might feel slightly down in the dumps when it comes to dolling up because compared to your friends, you're a solid 6 while they're sliding in to double figures. This is me to a T and you know what? It's time to stop. Here's some top tips I've told myself recently that I'm going to live by that I think would do you the world of good too if you feel the same way.

7 Foolproof Ways To Gain Self Confidence On Your Own

I know many people that suffer with low self-confidence, including myself. And when a person feels that way, it can really mess up your...
How To Turn Your Pessimism Into Happiness With 10 Easy Steps: Most people would probably agree that being nice to others is not only extremely important, but should be one of our top priorities in life. However, I wonder how many people actually make a conscious and continuous effort to encourage and spread joy to others. I know I often completely forget to! I imagine that many of the reasons we avoid the task is because we feel it will take too much time out of our already busy lives, or use some of the energy that we are preserving for the million and one things that we need to do that day. In this post, I am going to provide a few ideas of ways you can be nice to people and spread some happiness, without taking up much of your precious time and energy, in the hope that if we all make the decision to carry out some of these, we can help inject a little bit of joy into people’s lives, which can make more of a difference than you would ever think! 1. Smile It is amazing how much difference such a tiny gesture can make to someone’s day. It is such an easy task, yet really could cheer someone up or be exactly what someone was needing at that time. 2. Show Interest If you’re in a situation where you’re going to be spending more than a few seconds with someone (such as paying at a till or standing in a queue with someone) why not ask them how their day is going? It is such a small thing, but often just the knowledge that someone cares can be enough to completely change the mindset or mood of another person. 3. Offer Help This is similar to the last point, but if you see someone struggling, in whatever way, it really will not take much of your time to assist them a little bit. If it turns out the task they are struggling with requires more time or ability than you can offer, do what you can and I’m sure they will be grateful. 4. Speaking/Acting With Respect This is another super easy one, which I’m sure a lot of us do without thinking about it anyway, but often all it takes is to simply show respect to someone. Just small things like saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, or saying ‘excuse me’ etc. can really make a difference. It’s often considered basic manners, but I think that when someone treats you with complete respect it can be really encouraging. 5. Interactions On Social Media A really easy way to spread joy is to interact with people on social media platforms. It can be as easy as liking/retweeting someone’s tweet or commenting on someone’s instagram and blog. Again, it’s often just their knowledge that someone is thinking of them and appreciating what they are doing that can really make someone’s day. 6. Compliments It makes me feel a little guilty when I think about how little I actually make the effort to compliment someone, especially face-to-face. It’s a bit ridiculous the amount of times a day I’ll think about how much I like someone’s outfit, or love their makeup, or think that they seem really nice, but just never actually tell what I’m thinking. I know that when someone has complimented me on something it has always completely improved my mood and made me feel so much better about myself, so I’m sure it would have the same effect on others too! 7. Encouragement If you see someone attempting to do something, or struggling with something, it really does not take much time to just say a couple of words of encouragement, and this could really lift their spirits and give them the motivation and boost that they need. 8. Keep Negative Opinions To Yourself I think that when we see something we don’t like or don’t agree with, it can be so easy to start talking about your opinions, whether it be to the person you disagree with, or to others behind the persons’ back. However, these kinds of comments can really hurt someone’s feeling and knock their confidence, so I think one thing it can be really good to do is to just leave it. Unless what they are doing is hurting others or is being offensive, it’s often much nicer to just not say anything. I did a post on my blog about Gossiping (https://judanna.co.uk/gossiping-wheres-the-line) if you would like to read more about the topic! 9. Listen If someone has an issue or something they are worrying about, sometimes the nicest thing you can do is just be there for them and listen. It will not take much of your time and effort but will really benefit them. 10. Support I think a really simple way to show people your appreciation for them, or the work they do, is to support whatever they are doing. Whether this be encouraging them, interacting with their work, or financially supporting them (if you are in a situation which allows you to do so), supporting others is such a good way of spreading some happiness. These are a few ideas I have come up with, but if you have any more feel free to comment them down below so other people can see them. You will probably have noticed some key themes throughout these points! Basically, show people you respect, support and care for them, and it can make the world a happier place. Don’t forget that when people receive kindness, often their immediate reaction will be to spread the joy to someone else, so although your actions may seem small and slightly insignificant, they could make a much bigger impact than you could ever think. I really hope this post will have encouraged you to spread a little bit of joy into someone’s life whenever you can. We live in a world where there is so much hurt and suffering, but sometimes small acts of kindness can make a huge difference.

How To Turn Your Pessimism Into Happiness With 10 Easy Steps

Most people would probably agree that being nice to others is not only extremely important, but should be one of our top priorities in...
The Latest & Most Plausible Theories About Déjà Vu: Most, if not all of us, have at some point or another, experienced déjà vu. It’s an eerie feeling that something you’ve experienced seems really familiar. Even though a lot of people claim it has a spiritual basis, perhaps linked to reincarnation. It’s odd and these episodes last anywhere from 10 to 30 seconds and most people have experienced it at one point or another. Two-third of all people say they’ve experienced déjà vu before and I can’t conceive of what the other one-third are thinking. The term déjà vu – which translates “already seen” in French – was first coined in 1876 by French philosopher Emile Boirac and he coined the term in his book, L’Avenir des Sciences Psychiques. In the years since then, researchers studying the phenomenon – have come up with several different types of déjà vu that people experience or we can also think them as different explanations that researchers find while trying to explain the phenomenon. In general, though – it’s lumped into one of two categories:

The Latest & Most Plausible Theories About Déjà Vu

Most, if not all of us, have at some point or another, experienced déjà vu. It’s an eerie feeling that something you’ve experienced seems...
Why Do You Feel Sad & Guilty After Sex: Descriptions of “post-coital sadness” go all the way back to our ancient annals of medicine. Greek physician and philosopher Galen once observed, “Every animal is sad after coitus except the human female and the rooster.” That post-sex or orgasm feeling of depression, sadness, angst, and general ennui can last anywhere from five minutes to two hours. The most recent study that was done came out in October 2015 and it found that among the quite limited white, heterosexual female study population that it interviewed, 46% of people interviewed had experienced it at some point and a little over 5% experienced it on a regular basis. We don’t have any good data on how prevalent this is among people who are not straight, white, cis-gender women but anecdotally we do know this happens within the broader population. Do you think if empirically overlooking men’s experiences with this have to do with our stereotypes about women being more emotionally invested in sex and also being likelier to cry while we assume that men always – always – always want sex.

Why Do You Feel Sad & Guilty After Sex?

Descriptions of “post-coital sadness” go all the way back to our ancient annals of medicine. Greek physician and philosopher Galen once observed, “Every animal...
How Social Media Is Making Us Depressed & What To Do About It: Social media is a modern boogieman, blamed for the downfall of community and propriety, our own sanity. Let me explain it to you with some science. In psychology and sociology, there’s been a bunch of discussion about how social networks like Facebook can contribute to what’s called the fear of mission out. It’s the anxiety many of us have – some more accurate than others – that we’re not living our best lives compared with our peers. We could be doing more things; connecting with more people, hugging more kittens, having more fun. And social networking sites are linked to an increased fear of missing out: We now have solid digital evidence when our friends don’t invite us to a dinner, or when they have a lovely moment (on a vacation or in a relationship) that we’ve never had. But how do we handle that anxiety and what does it mean for our overall self-esteem?

How Social Media Is Making Us Depressed & What To Do About It?

Social media is a modern boogieman, blamed for the downfall of community and propriety, our own sanity. Let me explain it to you with...